We need to prepare for breastfeeding by placing your own body in a relaxed and comfortable position, which can be sustained without causing muscle tension or pain.

The semi-reclined or deck-chair position is by far the best position for switching on your baby's breastfeeding reflexes and teaching her to lay down new neurological pathways during feeds.

Sitting upright to feed is a common cause of breast tissue drag, even though you might think that sitting upright would help the breast fall forward and down in a way that makes it easier for the baby to come on. Actually, for many mothers and babies, especially at the beginning, sitting upright makes breastfeeding more likely to falter. Remember too that it is not gravity which pulls milk out of the ducts, but the baby's suck (negative pressure) combined with your milk glands' contractions (positive pressure). If breastfeeding seems to go better when you are semi-reclined, it is not because your milk flow is altered - it's because everything works better for baby's suck, mechanically, in the semi-reclined position.

When you are semi-reclined you are using the downward pull of gravity to help

• Support the baby's body without effort on your part

• The front of the baby's body fall flat against your chest and tummy

• The lower half of baby's face fall into or bury into the breast.

When you are breastfeeding at home, get comfortable with

• Footstool under your feet

• Soft pillow in the small of your back

• Lots of room on either side of you, so that the baby's feet don't kick or press against a chair arm. (A two-seater lounge chair is best - dedicated nursing chairs often have arms that can get in the way.)

• Very firm pillow or pile of folded towels ready to put under your elbow when feeding.

The deck-chair position is a very effective way to help breastfeeding get on track in the early days, or to help repair breastfeeding problems that have arisen later on.

This position can seem weird or extreme at first, and you might be thinking: “This isn't workable - how will I ever get out of the house?”

Being out of your house or apartment a lot meets your baby's need for rich and diverse sensory motor nourishment, as well as your own needs for social contact and exercise (e.g. walking!), so it's important that you feel you can breastfeed in public whenever you think it might help keep the baby downregulated.

When you are out and about, just do what is workable with breastfeeding. But you can still lean back into a semi-recline and no-one will notice anything strange.

Lying back doesn't slow down the flow of milk being released during a let-down, just as leaning forward doesn't increase the flow. Milk flows in response to contraction of the mother's milk glands (letdown) and the vacuum created in the baby's mouth as the jaw drops - these aren't altered by gravity.

But good positional stability helped by the deck-chair position allows babies to better manage a vigorous let-down.

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